Welcome To Heartbreak: The Spirit of Rejection
All I could remember is crying out to God….Why? Why doesn’t he want me? Why doesn’t he love me? Why did he break-up with me? Why did he walk away? Why won’t he talk to me? I just wanted to know why.
And those are the same questions we all ask after an break-up. We all just want to know….WHY????? But sometimes we never get the why. We all seek closure but I can tell you from experience you don’t always get it.
So then reality sets in and the pain begins to fester. We become sad, depressed. We feel rejected. The Spirit of Rejection overwhelms us, it causes us to feel unwanted, unworthy, lonely, miserable….hopeless. Proverbs 15:13 says, “A glad heart makes a happy face; a broken heart crushes the spirit.”
When someone rejects you, they crush and break your spirit. We all want to feel loved, we all want to feel wanted. So when someone rejects us it attacks and destroys our self-identity…our self-esteem…our self-value. It attacks who are and our purpose in life.
To be transparent with you all, I still struggle with the spirit of rejection. But after my break-up, I really struggled with it. I just wanted to why. I was a hot mess. I was unbearable to be around. In Proverbs 18:14 the Word says, “The spirit of a man will sustain his infirmity; but a wounded spirit who can bear?”
The spirit of rejection is one of ways the enemy uses to destroy us spiritually. He makes us feel like an outcast, a reject. He makes us feels alone. We get so depressed and down and out that we begin to feel no one understands us. But there is someone who understands and that person is our Lord and savior Jesus Christ. Isaiah 53: 3-5 says:
“He was despised and rejected by men, a man of sorrows, and familiar with suffering. Like one from whom men hide their faces he was despised, and we esteemed him not. Surely he took up our infirmities and carried our sorrows, yet we considered him stricken by God, smitten by him, and afflicted.”
Jesus can empathize with us and our feelings of rejection. For he was despised and rejected by many man. When he died upon the cross, not only did he die for our sins, he died and carried our sorrows…our infirmities. So when feel rejected we can call out to him and he be right there to help us. To wipe away our tears. To listen to us. To comfort us.
He knows how it feels to be rejected. He knows just like people rejected him, people will reject us. But he will never reject us. John 6:37 says, “However, those the Father has given me will come to me, and I will never reject them.” Jesus loves us, he feels our pain of rejection. Though the person we might have loved rejected us…he will never reject us.
God never intended for us to feel rejected or abandoned. Psalm 94:19 says, “For the Lord will not reject his people; he will never forsake his inheritance. God wants us to know that men reject us, he will never reject us."
His loves for us is unconditional. And to him we are somebody, we are worthy, we are special. Our identity should be rooted and grounded in him. So when someone rejects us-we won’t feel like we are unwanted or unloved because his love for us is unconditional and he will never reject us.
There is a saying that goes that rejection is really God’s protection and redirection. He allows people to reject us because he someone better for us. He allows old things and old relationships to pass away to give us new and better ones. Rejection is always a blessing in disguise.
Today I encourage you to give your spirit of rejection to Jesus. Remember he carried our sorrows when he died for us on Calvary. By his stripes we are healed. We can overcome the spirit of rejection when we allow God to heal our hearts and root our identity in him. Remember he loves you and will never reject you.
Today’s Scripture: “You are coming to Christ, who is the living cornerstone of God's temple. He was rejected by people, but he was chosen by God for great honor. ”1 Peter 2:4