Welcome To Heartbreak: Forgiving...Letting Go and Letting Go
Months have gone by and you are wondering why you just can’t get over it. Why you just can’t move on. The person who broke your heart has moved on. In fact they are already dating someone else. But you just can’t seem to get over the betrayal… the rejection…the anger….the pain. The reason being…you still haven’t forgiven them.
For months, I harbored resentment and bitterness in my heart towards my ex boyfriend. I was angry. I felt like he owed me an explanation for why he broke up with me…for why he walked out of my life. And I told myself that I wouldn’t forgive him until he gave me answers. I was so angry that I seen him in the mall one day and exploded (went psycho on him lol).
I demanded he give me answers…but I what really wanted him to do was apologize for hurting me…but after the blow up you can say I didn’t get my apology! But in that moment, I realized my forgiveness was based on him apologizing to me. I was prolonging my healing because I was expecting the person that hurt me to heal me and the only person that could heal and mend my broken heart was Jesus.
So from that point on I prayed to God and asked him to give me the strength to forgive him…I was tired…I was ready to let go.
(Today’s Daily Bread)
The key to moving on after a break-up or heartbreak is forgiving the person that hurt you. You cannot and will not move on and unless you forgive them. I know they lied to you. I know they cheated on you. I know they hurt you. I know they deserted you. They were mean, cruel….heartless and broken your heart into a thousand pieces and then walked out your life and moved on with their life like nothing ever happened. Like what you shared didn’t mean a thing.
But even with all of that….you must forgive them. Jesus tells us in Matthew 6:14-15 "For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”
You must forgive them for YOU. When you don’t forgive… the person that hurt you holds power over YOU. It’s like they are a puppet master and you are the puppet and they hold your emotions on a string and they can pull them up down as they want. But when you forgive them you take back your power and you cut the string.
In Ephesians 4:31 we are commanded to “Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior.” To forgive them you have to let it all go. The anger, the pain, the hurt, the bitterness…let it go! You have to let go and let God. You have to let go of wanting to know why….let go of wanting an apology because you may never get one.
Once you let go…you open your heart to be able to forgive. Letting go isn’t easy but harboring bitterness, resentment, and anger only prolongs you from moving on and getting healed. Once you forgive the person that hurt you…you begin the beginning steps of the healing process.
Forgiving the person that hurt you doesn’t mean you are automatically healed but it does bind that stronghold of unforgiveness and gives you back your power. Forgiveness frees your spirit and allows the Holy Spirit to operate freely in you and begin your healing process. Jesus can now begin his work to heal and mend the pieces of your broken heart. He can restore and make your heart whole again.
Today I encourage you to forgive the person that broke your heart. Do not expect them to give you closure in exchange for your forgiveness. Pray for them, forgive them and let it go and let God. Take back your power and cut the strings….and begin to let Jesus heal you, and restore your broken heart.
Today’s Scripture: “Then your salvation will come like the dawn, and your wounds will quickly heal.” Isaiah 58:8