Spare The Rod, Spoil The Child
If you spare the rod, you spoil the child. As Christians we must spare no rods when disciplining our children. When our children act out or exemplify disobedient behaviors they must be punished. As parents, we should be dedicated to raising our children in the ways of the Lord. When we discipline them, we help shape, mold, and develop godly characteristics in them.
The Word tells us if you really love your children you will discipline them. Proverbs 13:24 says, “Those who spare the rod of discipline hate their children. Those who love their children care enough to discipline them.” The purpose of disciplining our children is to correct their bad behaviors.
As parents we must start discipline our children early and we must be consistent. Early and consistent discipline will begin to develop a character that reflects self-control. Our children are not going to be perfect. They are going to act out, make mistakes, have attitudes but when they do… we must punish them and punish them promptly. Proverbs 22:15 tells us, “Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.”
Disciplining our children is not an option, is it is a commandment from the Lord. Now some parents don’t believe in physical punishment. They believe physical punishment is a form of child abuse and is cruel, but the Word tells us in Proverbs 23:13 “Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die.”
Matter of fact Proverbs 23:14 goes on to say, “Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell.” By punishing your child and correcting their behaviors early, you are helping them avoid a life of sinful destruction that would eventually lead to their death. Proverbs 19:18 says, "Discipline your children while there is hope. Otherwise you will ruin their lives."
Now thought it can be painful or unpleasant to physically discipline your children, think of the results it will yield-a well behaved child! Hebrews 12:11 says, “For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.”
For parents who don’t discipline their children there are major consequences. When parents don’t discipline or punish their children for their bad behaviors or actions they allow their children to develop a rebellious spirit. By sparing the rod, the child becomes spoiled and is able to manipulate and take advantage of the parents.
\Once a parent fails to establish themselves as the authority figure in the child’s lives, the child will not listen or respect the parents’ future commands. Proverbs 19:15 says, “To discipline a child produces wisdom, but a mother is disgraced by an undisciplined child.” Undisciplined children turn into problem children. They consistently get in trouble at school. They talk back and act disrespectfully. They bring shame and embarrassment to the parent. On the flip side, Proverbs 29:17 says, "Discipline your children, and they will give you peace of mind and will make your heart glad."
Today I encourage to not to spare the rod because if you do you will spoil the child! Like God has to punish us and correct when we are disobedient, we have to correct and punish our children we they are disobedient. To produce Godly children we must discipline our children. No expectations! Our parents’ didn’t spare the rod with us, and we have have turned out just fine!
Today’s Scripture: “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6