A Jealous Friend...
“What they do….They smile in your face….All the time they want to take your place…The back stabbers (backstabbers)” I know half of you are singing the lyrics to this song right now!! The O’Jays’ classic song “Backstabbers” describes those who smile in our face, but secretly hate us.
The people we trust, the people we talk to everyday, go to lunch with, go to church with, trust with our lives…people who would never in a millions years think would never hurt or betray us-are secretly planning our demise. But the bible tells us clearly in Micah 7:5, “Do not trust a neighbor; put no confidence in a friend. Even with her who lies in your embrace be careful of your words.”
The bible tells to put our trust in no man…and that includes our friends. It is hard to imagine or comprehend why a person we call a friend would hurt us, betray us…lie to us. A person we trust, love, and do anything in the world for….but there is saying that goes “keep your friends close and your enemies closer” but what if your friend is your enemy? Then what do you do? What makes a friend become an enemy?
Jealously is what makes a friend become an enemy. So let’s break down jealously. My favorite worldly definition of jealousy comes from Wikipedia and it states: Jealousy is an emotion and typically refers to the negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, and anxiety over an anticipated loss of something that the person values, particularly in reference to a human connection.
Now that’s the world’s definition of jealousy but we know jealousy is a demonic spirit. And a dangerous spirit at that. King Solomon tells us in Proverbs 27:4, “Anger is cruel, and wrath is like a flood, but jealousy is even more dangerous.”
So what would make a friend have a jealous spirit towards you. There are two roots of jealousy-insecurity and fear. A person who is insecure about themselves is not going to like a person who is confident or secure in themselves. Your friend is not going to like you if you are walking in your purpose, and they have no clue of what their purpose is.
Another root of jealousy is fear. Another reason why people become jealous is they feel threaten. And this feeling is rooted in fear. A friend may be threaten by your success, your relationships with certain people, your material possessions…and the list goes on and on….
And James 3:16 says, “For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice.” Jealousy and being envious leads people to sin. It is what causes our friends to backstab us.
Their jealousy towards us develops in a strong hatred. And hatred fueled by jealousy is hatred that no man can control. It leads people to kill and destroy the person they are jealous of. It consumes them.
Proverbs 6:34, says "For jealousy is the rage of a man: therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance." A person who is jealous of you will do anything to seek vengeance on you. Cain killed his brother Abel because he was jealous of him. Cain was jealous because God honored Abel's offering and not his.
A jealous friend will do everything in their power to kill or destroy you. And the scary and sad thing about it is they will do it secretly behind your back. They will lie on you. They will lie to you. They will talk about you. They will use you. They will betray you. If they don’t kill you physically, they will kill you emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.
So what do you do if have a jealous friend? If you know you have a jealous friend then you need to stay away from that person. I know it will be hard, painful, and sad but you must. If the Holy Spirit has revealed to you that someone in your inner circle is jealous of you, you need to remove that person from your life.
Second you need to go into serious prayer for that person. You need to ask the Lord to deliever them from the spirit of jealousy. The Word tells us in Romans 12:14, “Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse.” So if a friend betrays you, hurts you or lies on you, pray for them, forgive them, and keep it moving. Like the Word says “do not curse” them, just leave them alone. Confronting a jealous a person is one of the worst things you could do….remember we learned the jealous spirit is a DANGEROUS SPIRIT. LEAVE IT ALONE!
Today I encourage you to go into deep prayer and ask the Holy Spirit to reveal to you your friends who are really wolves dressed up in sheep’s’ clothing. I know some revelations will shock and blow your mind. People you never would have guessed are the main people secretly jealous of you and assigned by the enemy to destroy you. So get the revelation and ask Lord to give you wisdom on how to deal with that person. Never give a snake a chance to bite you.
Today’s Scripture: “After saying these things, Jesus was troubled in his spirit, and testified, “Truly, truly, I say to you, one of you will betray me.” John 13:21